okay so i'm new :) and im kinda excited to talk to real people who have been in the same situation who can offer advice based on actually relating expieriences,
my mums been drinking sinse i was eleven and it was triggered by my nans death and now 6 years later my mums drinking has just become routine its basically every other night but can change depending on the situation of the time its only me and my mum living together so even though im close to my grandad whome i adore and my brothers they have only seen glimpses of what shes like, i never told them as i didnt want to betrey her or embaress her even though now i know thats the worst possible thing i could have done. when it first started was the worst times for me we argued alot and despite thier been no physicall abuse there was some truely awful nights when i was young and i didnt know wtf to do.
my mum is like two different people, when shes sober shes just amazing shes kind shes caring and shes just great yet her as a person and not a mother i think shes feels very bored and unfulfilled and thats why i think shes drinks, she wont admit she has a problem or if she does she does it half-heartedly and then its back to drink even after a cuple of good weeks. shes hides whiskey bottles around the house.
when shes drunk we row, she says mean things and i in return say very mean things back i want to hurt her like shes done to me, but what she doesnt realise is one day i'll be able to walk away and leave her to it if she doesnt get it under control.
but its just so hard to bring it up throughout my teenage years its been something ive worked and lived my life around and its so physically hard to actually bring it up i did a while ago before my 18th and things were good but the night before my 18th low and behold a very drunk mother and we argued. i know she spent alot of money ensuring i had an amazing 18th but thats not the point is it.
she thinks because she spoils me with clothes and presents and thiers always food in and she mantains a job she doesnt have a problem but im sick of this im sick of being scared to invite my friends round, amazingly i have a wondeful boyfriend who fully understands and hes great but i'm just looking for more concreate advice from people who have been where i am and who have gotten out and helped thier parents change or are helping to currently ? how can i show her what shes doing and really hammer it home once and for all ?
any advice is welcomed aswell as any comments :)
