Children of Addicted Parents and People

Strangely at 37 years of age-I really didn't expect to fall out with my own sis. I do get stressed sometimes as we have both come from the same background, alcoholic parents etc but she does ring me quite a lot and although does try to be positive-most times she tells me that her life is terrible and how I am so much better off. Lately I have been getting increasingly sick of it. Today when I said I didn't feel too well and would't be coming to a course with her-she told "I'd let her down yet again" and she never wanted to see me again. I am still shcoked as I write it. Obviously I can only think she's got something pent up inside-that is more than just saying I'm not going to a course (although admittedly she does not like hearning-No) but the maddest thing is because I've decided to be myself and put me first-it definitely doesn't suit her. I'm effectively rocking the family boat-my sis has been the centre of most things lately as she's a single Mum. I help when I can but I do not expect anything of her or my parents and in turn do not expect them to rescue me in my life. I just want to be responsible for my problems and get on with it on my own. I respect people's individuality and think I am a square peg in a round hole unfortunately when it comes to my family. A strange day for me. Jx