Hi guys... I just joined, and have never really reached out to anyone before regarding my dad.
I'm 23 years old and my dad has been an addict my entire life, although the few points of happiness were great but it turns out it was only because he was using pills instead of alcohol.
Well heres the break down.. my dad takes Tylenol 3&4, adivan (?), diazapam, methadone, alcohol, cocaine, crack and thats all that I know about. The pills and alcohol were always something a little easier to handle because he would get mean but never violent. He would break things but never put his hands on any of us.. that is till he started to snort cocaine and smoke crack.
Thats when everything went down hill and fast.. he came home cracked out one day and attacked me actually this happened on 3 different occasions.. i did call the cops and he was arrested.. now the BIG problem is my dads family. His sister wont let him hit his rock bottom, she always bails him out.
The most recent event was after my grandfather died (my moms dad) my dad wanted my grandma (his mom) to move back in with us. Oh to recap she was always sneaking money to him to buy crack and always helping him hide it because he convinced her that he would die without it.. so i told his sister and her that she cant stay with us because she causes more problems then anyone.. back to that night.. he got wasted and decided to rant and rave that why couldn't his mom stay there when my mom crippled dad stayed there.. he was just went off on bashing my grandfather who had only passed away 3 weeks prior.. then he proceeded to try and burn the house down. The cops were called and because he broke his probation he was sent back to jail for 3 weeks. He got out of jail and has been telling everyone it was my fault and his sister and him have made up horrible lies about me to tell everyone.. also he sold some land in India and got $500,000 ... which was supposed to pay off the debt my dad created during his cracked out days and pay off the house so my mom could work less (she works a morning job and cleans 5 buildings at night) which hes not giving her hes going to spend it all in India shoving all the alcohol and drugs he can get down that throat of his..
My issue is.. I've always been there help him.. I have picked him up from more crack houses and run down motels then I can remember.. I just finally feel like I'm done.. I just need reassurance.. Should I try again, just to be let down? I just dont know what to do... I dont think I can ever forgive him for insulting my grandfather and for putting my and my two younger sisters through this hell..
any help in any way would be helpful.. just to get my head on straight..
thanks guys!!
